It really is hard seeing your baby in distress when there really isn’t much you are able to do but let them have a cuddle. I feel pretty useless when Ralph is so upset while in a great deal of discomfort. I’ve discovered that you just need to stay positive and focus on alternative ways in which you will be able to ease the situation.
Whenever the baby is upset make sure to stay as calm as you can as they simply will pick up on how you are feeling which in turn will then upset the little one possibly more. It’s such a cliche but sitting down and taking a few deep breaths really can make a lot of the difference. I suggest for keeping general stress levels low it’s worth considering some guided meditation or yoga, as the slow movements are fantastic for your body, gaining your pre-pregnancy figure back and general happy factor. Your time is obviously limited at the moment, however it need not be hours doing this, just a ten minute meditation or twenty minutes of yoga daily will change your life. There are even mother and baby yoga classes, books and online videos around nowadays, where you both can share the fun!
Consider these books below which I recommend on handling the stress of your little one. Descriptions are from Amazon.
Baby Om
You’ve just had a baby, and now you have two new goals: getting back in shape and enjoying close bonding with your new arrival. How can you find the time to do both? ‘Baby Om’ is a dynamic, easy-to-follow, fun yoga programme specially designed for new mothers and their babies. Laura Staton and Sarah Perron – both dancers, yoga instructors and mothers themselves – take mothers through a yoga practice that they can do with their infants.
New Baby Stress
In New Baby Stress, marriage experts David and Claudia Arp show you how to keep your marriage strong in the midst of the upheaval a baby can bring. They’ll help you find ways to get enough rest, develop a parenting style that’s uniquely suited to you, communicate effectively about the things that really matter, and rekindle your love life.
How To Reduce The Stress Of being A Mum and Enjoy Time With Your Newborn Baby by Anya Nora
To save you time and help you through the first months of being a mother, I wrote these pages. I will share with you how to make time with your baby more fun for both of you and how to make sure you do have time for yourself. The book will reveal what it takes to be a happy mother. It will guide you towards improving your relationship with your partner as well as your parents. The book will show how to keep yourself in good shape physically and intellectually. You will learn how to avoid sleep-deprivation, make your baby eat better and cope with your baby sickness. Finally, you will read about preparing for going back to work and choosing the right nanny or childcare.
Later on after you have calmed down, express how you are feeling, how your day has been and attempt to share the concern with your partner or a close friend. Also – take their help should it be given! I’d been up the entire night a week ago with a very unhappy Ralph and my mother in law offered to look after him for a few hours so that I could rest. Firstly I didn’t wish to do that and just wished to keep on comforting Ralph, however I took the offer and enjoyed a couple of hours nap. I awakened feeling much more refreshed and felt ready and determined to help Ralph feel better!
Please make full use of our forum on my website constipated babies, a place that you may share worries, concerns and ideas with other parents that are in the same situation as you!…remember you’re not flying solo!
Annie x
